This is where you can find answers to our most common questions,
I've never been attacked, why should I train in self-protection?
It is like what the insurance and financial investment companies tell you, "Passed performance does not indicate future results." There are bad people in this world, and they do bad things to good people. Shouldn't you be prepared?
I don't hang out with bad people, I choose my friends well, why should I train?
It is bad enough that over 20% of woman have some form of non-consensual (undesired) sexual contact before they are 18 years old. One of the most horrifying truths is, especially for dads, 75% of all Sexual Assaults and Rapes are done by someone the victim knows.
I don't go to stupid places at stupid times doing stupid things with stupid people, why should I train?
Some of the most common places for home invasion are in nice neighborhoods... because that's where the people live who can afford nice things. 1/3 of all home invasions, there is someone at home at the time.
Also, the 5 most common places for a sexual assault are:
- College Campus;
- parking garages;
- large open spaces/parking lots;
- public restrooms;
If you won't go to the bad guy, the bad guy may come to you.
I'm a guy, why should I train?
Men are the victim of 60% of all crime. More men die from a criminal attack each day than women.
It's a guy thing. We grow up playing war or cops&robbers or MMA/WWE superstar, watching Stalone, Norris, etc. And it can be embarrassing to admit we need help... it's a guy thing.
The odds are in my favor, why should I train?
It's not the odds, it's the stakes.
- lost wages
- medical expenses
- replacement expenses for lost/stolen/destroyed stuff
- loss of trust
- loss of confidence
How much of an impact would a broken leg or arm have upon your work life? Would you lose money because of not being able to work an assignment because of a doctor visit or a hospital stay for yourself or a loved one? Can you reasonably expect to survive with only a broken bone?
Where do you offer your training?
We are happy to provide you with training almost anywhere. For presentations outside of our immediate area (Tampa, FL), the seminar fee is adjusted to include travel, food and and if appropriate, lodging. To make the expense worth it for you, we offer weekend packages. The weekend package allows you flexibility on lodging and food and training time (up to 12 hours per day).
What age group do you train?
We do not train anyone under 15 years old, other than that, there are no age restrictions.
Why do you train 15 year old kids?
Perhaps a better question would be, "Why doesn't everyone?" Teenagers are at greater risk than most adults!
- The average age of children being abducted into the sex trade (human trafficking), is 15.
- Nationally about 24% of girls experience some form of undesired sexual contact by the age of 18.
- 20% of girls\women in college experience some form of undesired sexual contact or date rape, during their time in college.
We do not train children younger than 15 because many children under 15 are not ready either mentally, emotionally, or physically, to go thru the training with its explanations of why we are learning a specific techniques, or mature enough to role play certain scenarios. Many adults are uncomfortable with some of the scenarios, but all who have been exposed to them have agreed they are valuable.
Are there physical limitations on who can train?
Yes, there are the usual constraints based on health issues (cardiac, neurological, respiratory, skeletal, blood issues, active disease, etc). However, we do not require that our attendees be above average in physical ability. We are comfortable training almost everyone. We believe even the blind can benefit from our material. The only category that we do not believe we can benefit are those that require a walker to get around.
Why do you teach people to not kick?
We have seen too many martial artist throw a kick and fall down. We do not believe that people who have not trained in martial arts of some kind, should be lead to believe that they can do better.
Why do you teach people to not punch?
To be honest, most martial artist do not know how to punch with power. For them it is a very good thing that they do not punch with power. That is because they punch wrong and if they did punch with power they would injure or break their hand or wrist.
In the end there are two reasons we teach people to not punch.
- If you punch, but do not punch with power, you attacker will have no reason to believe your punch can harm them (and therefore have no reason to stop their attack).
- There are many very effective techniques that have nothing to do with punching and frequently are far more effective than a punch. Those are the techniques we teach.
What clothes should we wear to the seminar?
You should train in your normal, everyday clothes. If your normal, everyday clothes sometimes includes a dress and 3" heels, then that is what you should train in. If the material you are taught does not work when you are wearing what is normal for you to wear, then you need to be learning something else... we need to be teaching something else.
On numerous occasions our students have worn dresses and 3" heels and they have always come out on top... legitimately.
Why do you not utilize rubber suits in you training?
We do not believe that someone wearing a rubber suit is a good simulation for what you will encounter on the street, or in your bedroom. There are three major flaws to having an pseudo attacker in a rubber suit.
- The rubber suit forces the attacker to stand with his legs wider apart than is natural. This leads the trainee to falsely believe that they can effectively kick the attacker between the legs.
- The rubber suit encourages the trainee to attack full force, which isn't bad, but it requires the attacker to pretend they are injured, when the suit actually prevents injury. We don't want the training partners hurt, but when you pretend it was effective, you deceive the person who is trying to learn how to do it right.
- The trainee is left believing that they know how to fight the attacker into submission. The result is they leave expecting to be able to do that and may fight until they achieve the submission... instead of leaving to obtain the safety they are seeking.
How long are you training seminars?
We have a variety of seminars, and other presentations. All of the seminars are 3 hours long. The seminars have 2 parts. One part is classroom style, with group interactions interspersed with brief activities. The second part is training in physical techniques with practice of concepts. The first part is 1/3 of the seminar. The second part is 2/3 of the seminar.
We have shorter presentations suitable for civic group meetings, Lunch-n-Learns, and Education with demonstration.
We are also available for Middle and High School classroom and General Assembly presentations on as variety of topics that can empower, encourage and uplift the students.
Why do you spend 1/3 of the training time in non-physical training?
We teach Self-Protection, not self-defense.
The difference between self-defense and Self-Protection is simple.
Self-defense is what you do when you are being attacked.
Self-Protection is, "lets not go there in the first place... But if you do end up there, it is having what you need,
to get the time,
to get to safety."
One of our main catch phrases is that we want you to get mad. We spell mad, M.A.A.D.D.D.:
If those first 5 elements are working for you, the likelihood that you will need to physically defend yourself is very small. Because of this, we want to equip you in those areas along with the physical defense material.
What is M.A.A.D.D.D.?
- Mindset: have an orientation towards your own survival and vitality. This enables you to refuse to be a victim.
- Awareness: knowing what is in your environment and understanding the changing dynamics of the things going on around you.
- Avoidance: Everyone is aware that there are people and places that are “hazardous to your health”. Just like you cannot judge a book by it’s cover, that is also true about people and places. I’ll not tell you to not go to places or be with people that increase your risk. I do encourage you to take a moment to think thought a few “what-if’s”. Actually, it is the “What If’s” that Avoidance is all about.
- Deterrence: Doing things to encourage the bad guy to avoid you.
- De-Escalation: You could consider de-escalation to “making nothing out of something.”
- Defense: Doing whatever you need, to get the time you need, to get to safety.
Are your prices competitive?
Yes! Our pricing has been set to take into account the economic struggles of the average citizen. We frequently receive emails to be a part of seminars\training put on by others. Many times they are asking for $1,000-$2,000 per person for a weekend of training.
The median disposable (after-tax) income of middle-class households in the U.S. was $60,884 in 2010. At that level of income the average mortgage payment is about $700/month.
We don't believe you should have to pay 2-3 times your monthly mortgage payment for a weekend of Self-Protection training.
Why do you train in firearms, isn't the non-firearms material good enough?
I guess it comes down to what is good enough? Are your non-firearm skills good enough when:
- you have multiple attackers trying to rape and kill you (or kill and rape you)?
- you have a child, infirmed parent or other individual in your care?
- your attacker has a club, knife or gun?
- you are already dealing with an injury or lack of health?
Why don't you train only in firearms, isn't the firearms material good enough?
That depends on where you go and how good you are with a gun. Do you go to:
- tax collector
- post office
- government offices
- sporting events
If you do not go to any of these places, and you keep everyone more than 21 feet away from yourself, then maybe your gun is enough... if you can put 2 rounds on a moving target in less than 1.5 seconds, while that moving target has a club or 12" long blade that they are trying to plant into your skull... and there isn't more than one moving target... and no innocent people in the general direction of that target/attacker.
If you don't know that you can pull that off, then you need to equip yourself with additional options (aka - non-firearm skills)
What’s your refund policy?
At the end of a Self-Protection training seminar, if you are not convinced that you received the value you were lead to expect, let us know and we will make things right for you, even if that means a refund.